#NextFakeTrumpVictim – we knew it was coming

Listen everyone – it is long past time for a reckoning.  It was long past time decades ago to address systemic sexism (and racism).  Over the last week, I have fielded calls from friends and others who have been the victims of sexual assault and domestic violence. They too are torn daily between quaking in that corner with me and glad the national conversation about rape and assault is finally happening.   I had to come to terms again this week the abuse I experienced over twenty years ago.  My daughter, now 27,  had to revisit her first memory – her father brutally attacking her mother.  This isn’t some made up PC feminist nonsense.  This is real and this is our lives.

 Women groped by Donald Trump started coming forward yesterday.  For one hot second I thought the Trump camp was toeing a difficult line.  After Trump’s incredibly earnest embrace of Clinton’s accusers in front of millions of TV viewers how would he (and his loyal followers) show similar respect – indeed grave concern – for the women who would begin to come forward accusing Trump?

I mean, his huge brain had to foresee the avalanche of women who would come forward to out him?  Surely a man facing  allegations of raping a 13 year-old, a man who raped his first wife (subsequently Ivana recanted), admitted to sexual assault on tape, and has faced or is facing charges of sexual harassment had to have some sort of strategery in mind when handling his accusers. The approach would surely be nuanced and well thought out like the totality of his campaign.  Subtly would be key and humility ever his hallmark.

And I was totally right.

The never disappointing deplorables are out in full force today driving a fun #NextFakeTrumpVictim campaign on Twitter.  This hashtag campaign is almost as fun as the repeal the 19th Amendment chuckle-fest we all lived through yesterday.

I am torn between rejoicing that these vile creatures are showing the world their ass and running over and quaking in a corner of my bedroom.

Donald Trump is walking rape culture, his mob of knuckle dragging enablers an example of what women face every single day.   Women are routinely dismissed by law enforcement when reporting assault.  Look at recent reporting from New Orleans, Baltimore, Kansas City, and on and on and on.  We have a staggering rape kit backlog in this country because of course we do.  Naturally there are national standards for how sex crimes are handled from first contact with victims through evidence collection and processing through trial and survivor services.  Naturally right?

Nope.

Just today in Kansas/Missouri two men were arrested for abducting and assaulting a female sheriff’s deputy.  The DA announced they were sure there were more victims and urged women to come forward.

In order for women to come forward they must feel safe. In order to feel safe, their claims must be taken seriously. In order for women to be taken seriously we must address the institutionalized sexism and rape culture that permeates our law enforcement agencies, press and indeed social media.

Donald Trump is repulsive. His apologists and surrogates – disgusting.

But this #NextFakeTrumpVictim world is the reality for way too many women – and God help you if you are a WOC or a sex worker because you are statistically even less likely to find any justice if you are raped.

Listen everyone – it is long past time for a reckoning.  It was long past time decades ago to address systemic sexism (and racism).  Over the last week, I have fielded calls from friends and others who have been the victims of sexual assault and domestic violence. They too are torn daily between quaking in that corner with me and glad the national conversation about rape and assault is finally happening.   I had to come to terms again this week the abuse I experienced over twenty years ago.  My daughter, now 27,  had to revisit her first memory – her father brutally attacking her mother.  This isn’t some made up PC feminist nonsense.  This is real and this is our lives.

 

 

 

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